First, let’s define ‘the one.’ Most people understand this as a romantic individual or soulmate they have searched for their whole life and will spend the rest of their days with.
I agree but to an extent. I do not feel as if we have one ‘person’. I want to acknowledge that we have many people or soulmates who come into our lives for different purposes.
A perfect match can be someone around for a phase, a stage, a decade or two, or a lifetime. People come and go, sometimes they come back & stay, and sometimes they go back away. That’s just life. Therefore, it’s not a matter of “is this the perfect match”; it is more reasonable to ask “if this is a perfect match.” If you two are a perfect match right now, run with it. Soak it up, enjoy it.
Now, I am not encouraging one to maintain an unhealthy or toxic relationship/friendship with someone who brings more negative than positive to your life.
However, if it seems like you are a perfect match, it’s probably because you are. But it is important to note that this is not only mutual but also present. You ARE a match, but YOU are growing. Will this person grow with you or apart from you? Your relationship together assumes no expiration, no deadline, as well as no expectation for the future. The future is merely a concept that we create in our minds, base decisions around, and look towards. But truthfully, it doesn’t even exist until it becomes the present moment.
Now, let’s go into the dynamics of this perfect match. First, it will not be forced. That is, you can not morph this person into a category that fits your desires. Your ideal partner will be one of two things. It will be someone who has the characteristics you want by their own nature, or it will be someone with qualities you never knew you needed.
The following way to tell if this is the depth of your relationship is to recognize who this person is in the absence of your feelings for them. By this, I mean removing your feelings for the person and then analyzing them. Are they someone you like as a person or are just attracted to?
Honestly, sometimes we get so excited about a cute boy or someone who is x, y & z that we cannot separate the actual person from the one we made them out to be in our head. So you must yourself accountable. And for those of you avoiding this, it will come back to bite you in the butt because, after that honeymoon phase, you are hit with the qualities of the person you were trying to avoid before. Any problems or concerns you have now will only amplify as your relationship progresses. Choose wisely.
Now, we have a tricky question to ask. Is this a twin flame or a karmic love?
A twin flame is someone who connects with you at the soul and is so effortless and unconditional, you have no option but to be yourself. It is so meant to be that nothing in the world will stop it, even though that takes work (mutual work, not forced).
A karmic love comes in disguise. It is something so great, so truly remarkable, that’ll make you giddy like a 1960s rom com and question if this really ‘the one’. Only to realize you were so distracted by the outside of the package, you realized there was nothing in it. You were so consumed with making it work that you didn’t even see if it could work on its own. And it didn’t. But that is okay.
So now you might wonder, well, how do I know? I could be cliche and say, “when you know, you know” but that’ll lead most people off of my page and typing “how do you know when you know?” into their Google search bar. While yes, you will feel that it is right. It will stick out in situations where it maybe wasn’t supposed to. It will defeat the test of time and the rules of society.
Right person, wrong time? Here is my answer. There is no such thing as “wrong time”. God’s timing is inevitably perfect and if it was meant to happen right now, it would.
So why waste your time? Look at it this way, if you spent your time sad and worrying about them, and they do happen to be your “person”, then there was no point in worrying in the first place. Your worrying didn’t bring them back; nothing had to because they were always meant to come back. On the other note, if they aren’t meant to come back, you can bet your bottom dollar that a more perfect match is coming for you. And you’re going to look back and laugh at how much you cared over someone whose love for you wasn’t strong enough to come back.
Either way, the future is a figment of society’s belief. So why worry about something that isn’t tangible or controlled in any way. What’s that they call it? Oh yeah, faith. Have a little bit of that. And in the meantime, enjoy whatever is right in front of you. Because someday, when you have received the “perfect match” you prayed for, you’re going to miss the exact moment you are in now.
That’s life, baby.
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